Couples Therapy
“We are never so vulnerable as when we love.” Sigmund Freud
There is nothing so distressing as when a love relationship starts to feel bad.
When intimacy, romance, sharing, and laughter has turned to distance, frustration, resentment or just disconnection, it can be painful.
Life is simply more difficult when we are unsure if our partner will respond to our needs.
These are some common things I hear in my office.
“When we try to talk, it always becomes an argument.”
“We used to love spending time together but now we can’t even connect.”
“She thinks I do everything wrong. It has to be her way.”
“He doesn’t even care that I feel this bad.”
Time and the journey of life together can take a toll on a couple’s sense of connection. Often, couples find themselves having the same argument over and over again, fighting about the same past events, getting more and more disconnected each time. This repeated pattern creates a negative dance for couples that can seem impossible to stop.
Couples that have been married 10, 20 and more years can start to wonder, What happened to our love? Have we simply grown apart? Are we simply too different? Is there any hope for our relationship?
Couples therapy is about finding your way back to each other, learning to lean into the space between you to find your connection again.
Regardless of where you are in your relationship, what your conflict and disconnection look like, couples therapy can help.
I have worked with couples in all levels of distress from the first worries about conflict to those considering divorce including:
-couples that are struggling through the challenges of parenting
-couples that have experienced infidelity
-couples wanting more intimacy
-couples just wanting to work on their relationship
I use EFCT, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, in my work with couples. Research has shown this model to be effective in helping couples repair and renew a loving bond. It provides us a map for moving couples from distress to bonding. If you would like help in restoring, renewing or repairing your relationship, I am here to help.