Couples Therapy
“We are never so vulnerable as when we love.” Sigmund Freud
There is nothing so distressing as when a love relationship starts to feel bad.
When intimacy, romance, sharing, and laughter has turned to distance, frustration, resentment or just disconnection, it can be painful.
Life is simply more difficult when you struggle to connect with your person.
Some common things I hear in my office:
“It’s like we’re having the same argument over and over again.”
“He doesn’t care that I feel this bad. He won’t listen to me.”
“She thinks I do everything wrong. It has to be her way.”
“I’m not sure anymore if we belong together.”
Time and the journey of life together can take a toll on a couple’s sense of connection. Often, couples find themselves having the same argument over and over again, fighting about the same past events, getting more and more disconnected each time. This repeated pattern creates a negative dance for couples that can seem impossible to stop.
Couples that have been married 10, 20 and more years can start to wonder, What happened to our love? Have we simply grown apart? Are we simply too different? Is there any hope for our relationship?
Couples therapy is about finding your way back to each other, learning to lean into the space between you to find your connection again.
Regardless of where you are in your relationship, what your conflict and disconnection look like, couples therapy can help.
I have worked with couples in all levels of distress from the first worries about conflict to those considering divorce including:
-couples wanting more emotional and/or sexual intimacy
-couples wondering if their relationship will last or if they want to remain together
-couples that are struggling through the challenges of parenting
-couples that have experienced betrayal
I use EFT, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and RLT, Relational Life Therapy in my work with couples. Research has shown EFT to be effective in helping repair distressed relationships. RLT provides powerful interventions that can help even the most distressed couples.